My job as a parent is to be encouraging; it is the job of the coach to be the pusher. I want to push, but that's not really in the best interest of my children or our family dynamics. If I want them to be pushed, it is my job to push the coach. Isn't that why I pay to have my children in activities? If I knew it all, then I wouldn't have someone else teaching them how to do it. I want my children to enjoy their activities, but when they need to be pushed (and they will need to be from time to time), let them be frustrated with/mad at their coach for pushing. The coaches can take it; it's their job.
I want them to know that at home they will be encouraged. Yes, at home they will be encouraged:
- to practice.
- to have a good attitude.
- to use the gifts God has given them.
- to listen to their coaches.
- to have fun.
- to work hard.
- to do their best.
Until next time,
P.S. This would apply to teachers too. In fact, we've recently asked a teacher to push one of our kids harder. The results have been fabulous!
3 comments:
you should print that out and keep it somewhere you can refer to easily when life gets frustrating. Then you can say - oh yeah that's my job! :) Your kids are lucky you so such a thoughtful mom! :)
I agree with you--it also takes the power struggle away. Nothing to protest against when you are supportive/encouraging! Your kids are lucky. Aunt Lori
Good perspective...that's where I struggle when I am the parent & the coach. It can be very hard to separate those 2 relationships :o)
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